Networking Group for Aces on University of California Campuses

Just want to quickly signal boost the fact that we are currently creating a new University of California system-wide ace networking group!

Goals of this group include:

  • To allow leaders and members of campus ace groups to exchange advice and inspiration
  • To provide a place for support and connection for aces who don’t have any local ace connections on their own campus
  • To provide advice and resources for aces looking to start new ace groups on their own campus
  • To coordinate on state-wide awareness and education campaigns.
  • etc.

While the initial focus will probably be on outreach to UC campuses, it’s also open to CSU and community college students and may expand more in the future.

If you are an ace or questioning student or recent alum on a UC or related campus and would like to be added to the group, send an email to and we’ll give you more info. The group is currently set to secret, so you’ll need to be added by someone currently in the group.

Also, if you know anyone who might be interested, please help spread the word!

(For ace student group leaders at non-UC system schools, there’s also the pre-existing Ace Space Network:

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Ace Awareness Week Poster Kit

Want to make some posters to use to spread asexual awareness in your own area? Here’s a template! This minimalist poster design is intended to be easy to print on home computers, easy to edit, and still fairly stylish and catchy.

You can download the files yourself here.


  1. Includes templates for Word and for InDesign
  2. Fonts used include Futura, Helvetica (light), and Anime Ace. Some of these may not be available on your computer, so you may end up having to download them or substitute similar fonts.
  3. I’ve included sample text on the first image, but you can swap out any text of your choice.
  4. The InDesign file also include a few bonus variant designs with slight differences.

I will also happily input text myself and send you a formatted pdf if you have any trouble editing them yourself.

Here’s an example of one I made for my own local group:

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Help Wanted: The Ace Press Kit Project!

About the Ace Press Kit Project

As part of gearing up for Asexual Awareness Week, I’ve been starting to assemble a rudimentary press kit for my local ace group, Asexuality SF. As a corollary to that, I also want to create a more general Asexual Awareness Week press kit that any ace org can use – but I need your help!

A press kit is basically a collection of materials to use when promoting your organization to the media, including press releases, high quality images, fact sheets, sample quotes and testimonials, contact information, and more. Making such content easily available to media increases the chances that they’ll be interested in featuring you, and also increases the accuracy of resulting media article by making reliable information more easily accessible.

While the main goal of this project is to create a press kit to be pushed out during Asexual Awareness Week, the press kit will remain available online after the fact for use with day-to-day media requests.

The full contents of the press kit will also be made available to other interested ace organizations if they would like to use them to develop their own custom-branded press packs, which I’d be happy to help with.

In addition to the basic briefs that I’m already putting together, a  good press kit includes a variety of quality images, testimonial that articles can quote, and contact information for individuals available for further interview. And this is where I need your help! I’m currently looking for volunteers who can submit ace-related stories, quotes, and images for use in the press kit, as well as individuals who would be willing to be listed as contacts for possible future interviews.

See below for more information about what exactly we need. If you have questions, or think you would like to submit something, please send an email to or leave a comment below.

In additional, I could also use some volunteers to help edit all briefings as they are completed, so if you might be interested in helping out with that, just drop me a line.


What We Need

1. Images

We all know what happens when we leave the media to find their own images for asexuality articles -we get a lot of plastic sexless mannequins, chastity belts, and mysterious spoons.

Instead, why not make it easier for media by picking out some images for them?

You are welcome to submit any sorts of images you want to the library, but images that are in high demand include images of ace pride celebrations and pictures with ace flags. Of course, feel free to go beyond just the obvious ace imagery, and submit pictures of other fun things like cakes or miscellaneous ace colored items. Images relating to aromanticism, grey-asexuality and demisexuality specifically would also be helpful!

Guidelines for images:

  • Images should be high resolution and publication quality – preferably around 300ppi and at least 4″x4″. As cute as that blurry cell phone pic of your cat might be, it’s not really suitable for publication.
  • Images should be your own work
  • Images submissions should include a brief, 1 sentence caption for each image.
  • Images should be at least vaguely related to asexuality (including ace community memes like cake or tea), or have ace people in them.
  • If submitting an image featuring someone other than yourself, please make sure you have their permission before submitting. (the one exception is for pictures from public events like pride parades, in which case you do not need special permission).
  • Both photographs and illustrations are acceptable. Get creative!
  • By submitting images to the library, you are giving permission for your images to be used publicly by anyone who downloads them, and will not have any control over their use. Though you can request images be removed from the library at any time, we will not be able to control anyone who downloaded them previously. So please think carefully about what you share!

2. Testimonials.

While a picture may be worth a thousand words, sometimes all you need is a few dozen. We are also looking for volunteers willing to share a little bit about what it’s like being ace, and why awareness is so important. Concise soundbites are the ideal for putting together media stories, so shorter 1-3 sentence responses are the easiest to work with. If you tend to be a bit long-winded, though, no worries! Just submit as much as you want, and we’ll help piece it out into workable bits.

Possible Prompts:

  • Why is ace awareness so important?
  • What parts of the ace community do you think need more representation?
  • What parts of the ace experience do you think need to be talked about more?
  • When did you first discover asexuality, and how did it feel?
  • What was it like before you knew that ace was an option?
  • How did you first realize that you might be asexual?
  • Have you ever come out as ace? How did people react?
  • What’s it like being ace in LGBT spaces?
  • What kind of challenges do you face in day to day life because of your asexuality?
  • As an ace person, what do you most need from ace allies?
  • Anything else you want to talk about!

When submitting a response, please also include a little bit of biographical information that we can share, such as perhaps first name, city, age, gender, and any membership or leadership roles you have in ace orgs, etc. Of course, feel free to leave any of these blank or use a nickname, pseudonym, or just “anonymous” if you’d rather not be identified.

3. Referrals

Of course, while soundbites are great, most good reporters may want to go a little deeper. That’s why we’d like to have some individuals who are willing to share their contact information with reporters who might be looking for people to contact. For this part of the project, we ask that you only sign up if you are comfortable sharing your actual name, as this is what we most need when it comes to media requests. For those who are uncomfortable sharing too much information, consider helping out with testimonials above.

While the list will not be publicly posted, it will be shared with any journalist or other ace org who requests it, so please do not share any information you would not be comfortable with strangers knowing. Please be safe.

If you’d like to be included as a referral, please just send us as much of the following information as you can:

  • Name
  • General geographic area
  • Age
  • Any ace organizational affiliations you’d like to share (ex: leader of X city ace meetups, member of AVEN, blogs at awesomeblog, etc.)
  • Gender identity + Preferred pronouns
  • Identity (biromantic grey-A, etc.)
  • Preferred contact information (email and/or phone #)
  • A brief 2-3 sentance bio of whatever might make you an interesting ace interview.

As a reminder, if you have questions, or think you would like to submit something, please send an email to or leave a comment below.

Thanks again everyone!

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Tips for Prospective Ace Pride Marchers

I was talking with redbeardace recently about advice for ace groups who want to participate in pride parades, and thought of several bits of advice, which I’m reposting here in no particular order for anyone else who might find them useful (And someday, hopefully, I’ll draft this into an actual more organized guide). Feel free to add your own advice or questions in the comments below!

  • Start planning early: registration often starts up to 6 months before the actual event – keep an eye on the parade website and get on the mailing list if they have one. See if they have odd rules that you need to know (for ex: my event bans all mylar balloons)
  • Large parades usually have a registration fee – so you may need to fundraise and/or find a generous donor in the group to cover that. Fees often go up closer to the event, which is more incentive to get registered early
  • Think about handouts – it can be good to handout things like fliers or stickers with a link to more info to raise awareness, but these require time to design and print ( 2-3 weeks lead time is best to be safe), and cost money to print as well (can be 200-300 if you want things like stickers and want enough to give out – I think we gave out around ~3000 stickers at SF pride this year, and we could have given out even more). I personally like stickers because they are cheaper than things like buttons or wristbands, but people are more likely to take them than paper fliers (and you can stick them on things for free advertising!)
  • Think about a banner – having a large, easy to hold sign with your group name makes you much more memorable. It helps to have a visible reference to a website or anything where people can find more info
  • Remember to be prepared for lots of walking and time in the sun – bring sunscreen, water, and snacks. One thing that has been super useful is having a small cart or wagon or other wheeled item to carry extras of these (and if there’s space you can also hold extra fliers, purses, sweaters, etc.).
  • Go with a walking group, at least for your first year – floats or other vehicles are more expensive to get permits for and require more training
  • Have reliable volunteers available beforehand – this probably differs between parades, but SF at least requires several volunteers from each group to attend prior safety training
  • Be prepared for pictures – people will take lots of pics and videos of you. This is not a good event for people who are at risk if work/family finds out about their aceness, unless maybe if you wear a fancy disguising costume or something.
  • Be catchy – people love jokes like “asexual pirates aren’t interested in your booty”, so if awareness is your goal, things like that can be helpful (if you are just going for a fun time, though, don’t worry about)
  • walking in a straight line gets boring. Consider bringing things like flags or signs that you can wave around or dance with, or otherwise have some fun with.
  • Be prepared for lots of sitting and waiting. Big parades have more people than fit on the route, so you can spend up to several hours just waiting in line before you march. Consider something light like a pack of cards, or some word games or other ideas to keep people entertained.
  • Plan an escape: this varies from pride to pride, but at some big, beer-sponsored events like SF, the parade dead-ends at a festival jam-packed with drunken crowds…which you may not want to deal with. So having a pre-established place to meet up and hang out after the parade, preferably a walkable or easily public-transitable distance from the event, is great.
  • Coordinate with watchers – you will probably have some people who are not up for walking long distances, or who want to watch the whole parade, so maybe make plans to 1. let them know when to expect you so they can cheer and 2. make plans to somehow meetup afterwards (see above)
  • Know that being in the parade, means you don’t get to watch the parade: just whoever is right in front of you, or maybe the people behind you if you stay for the end after finishing.
  • If you have a group that isn’t sure about marching, a potential first step is to just have one year where you all go watch the parade together – you can get a sense for what the atmosphere is like, get idea from other groups in the parade, etc.
  • Also, check out what all the prides are in your area – in some large metro areas, there will be a “main” pride in the biggest city, but nearby cities may have their own smaller prides – these are usually cheaper, calmer, less corporate, less drunken, etc. These can be a less intimidating first place to march.
  • Oh, and one last tip – have a spiel practiced and ready. You will be asked over and over “what’s asexuality?” “why are you here?”, possibly even by people on camera. It’s less exhausting if you have a practiced few phrases you can recite without even thinking too hard.

If you need inspiration, you can also check out the footage of several awesome marching groups from this summer below :)

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Asexual Groups in Fiction

Thinking about putting together a post on how asexual meetup/”support” groups are portrayed in media (mostly television and film, but I’d consider including other media if I knew of any).

So far the only examples I know of are:

  1. The asexual group in Shortland Street (New Zealand soap opera)
  2. The asexual support group in The Olivia Experiment (small independent film in the US)
  3. The asexual group in Divorce (Dutch television show)

Does anyone know of any other examples I should look at?

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Help us make a Comprehensive Asexual Academic Publications Masterlist!

So I mentioned this on tumblr earlier today, but I wanted to put out a more formal announcement: help us crowdsource a comprehensive record of academic publications about asexuality!

Asexual Explorations already has a pretty good introductory bibliography that makes for a good starting point, but it’s not updated very frequently, so it can be missing a lot of newer works. Asexual Explorations is also a curated list that makes a point of focusing on works that are good starting points for reading and studying – which is incredibly useful for new researchers, but not he same as what I had in mind.

Specifically, I want to create a masterlist that serves almost like a historical archive, with records of  all published works dealing with asexuality – even the really really bad ones that no one should ever read or cite. This would be an abbreviated bibliography, with no abstracts or summaries, at least to begin with (though that could be a possible future expansion).

Of course, it’s hard to catch all these papers by myself, which is where I could use your help – I’ve set up google doc template for entering any known papers, so if you can add even a few papers that you know of, it’s be a great help! The first step is simply to get the basic information for each paper, which is where outside help is the most necessary. Once the initial list is more complete, further potential expansions could include adding abstracts, adding summaries, adding reviews, adding tags, etc – but none of that can happen until we have the first step done.

So, with that done…..

Add to the masterlist here! (first tab is instructions, second tab is for entries)

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Carnival of Aces July 2015 Wrap-up: Asexual History

It’s a bit late, but here it is!

Last month’s Carnival of Aces was on the topic of Asexual History, and we received some great submissions. A big thanks to everyone who submitted! If I missed an entry or got any names wrong, feel free to leave a note in the comments.

The next Carnival of Aces for August is being hosted by writer-ace, and the theme is “Ideals

Also, as a reminder, we are always looking for more volunteers to host the carnival – there’s no one lined up yet after August, so now is a great time to volunteer. See the masterpost for details.

Without further ado, here’s all out wonderful submissions:

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The following is a guest post for the July Carnival of Aces, on Asexual History


By “Angela,” a.k.a. Thylacine of Aven

It’s one in the morning, and the world is cloaked in darkness. The phone rings, shattering the night’s silence. “Oh sheesh… Who could this be? Hello?” It’s a friend from work. “Hey! I know this guy who would be perfect for you! And he’s definitely free! I know he’s free, ‘cause he just got out of the house of correction!”   “Don’t bother! I’m going back to bed! Good night!” Yes, things like this can actually happen to nice decent people when they’re trying to get a good night’s sleep…

Some of us from AVEN (a.k.a. the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network) helped Sylvia Pagan Westphal when she wrote her article for New Scientist magazine entitled, “Glad To Be Asexual.” And, for privacy reasons, a few of us asked that she not use our real names. And so she decided to call me “Angela.” And I am in fact a real person, not someone she invented.

Most people are what asexual people call “sexual” – I guess this just means “everybody else.” That is, 99% of the population. Approximately 1% of the people are asexual. There are not many asexual people in the world, but there are far more than most people would realize.

Part of the reason I’m writing this article is not only to inform, but also to show that yes, we are here, and we do exist. We could be your co-worker, your neighbor, a friend whose eternal singletude frustrates you.

Most people describe feelings of “needing” sex or “wanting” sex. How do I know people have these feelings? Because they are constantly talking about their sexual feelings, and sometimes they talk about their sexual feelings in the most annoying way. They describe themselves as being in this state of “gotta get some.”   And if the person I’m having a conversation with knows I’m single, they often continue with the quite very rude, “and you gotta get some too!” What they do not comprehend is that I don’t gotta get some. Unlike most people, I just don’t need any.

I actually never developed these feelings. And many people like me just don’t. Many of the other asexual people I’ve communicated with grew up, matured emotionally and physically and intellectually, but never found the need to pursue other people for sex.

You cannot tell if a person is asexual by seeing him or her in person. We are a diverse group of people. And we don’t walk around with neon signs that advertise “asexual.” We do not fit a stereotype of people who are not “into sex.” We are not all boring, or tragically shy, or ugly. We are who we are, and we’re all different. And one thing I notice asexuals have in common — the ones I have met are very intelligent and articulate people. Could it be that having no interest in chasing after sex clears up space in one’s head for other things? Well, possibly, yes. That’s my theory, and I’m sticking with it.

It might actually be beneficial to learn more about asexual people. Why? Because you may have one in your life, and just not realize it! It may be your daughter who doesn’t seem to date much, your friend who refuses to let you fix him / her up, or your new boyfriend who just doesn’t seem to be in a real big hurry to “get it on.”

So, what is it like to live the life of an asexual person? I cannot speak for everyone who is asexual. As I have said, we are all different. But, if you would like, I’ll share some of my life with you on these pages, and maybe you will be able to understand.

Well… this is how it goes… When you’re a kid, all of a sudden all the other kids go insane. And you don’t! For instance, once while in a schoolyard I was talking with some friends and they see the scruffy kid that the nuns hired to be the janitor’s assistant and they freak out, “Oh my God, oh my God, oh my God! He’s so cute!” And I’m watching them lose their minds over this… ordinary person. “Yeah? So?”

Time goes on and you notice everyone else (especially those among the popular) are getting married in a “big hurry”… that is… they “got caught” — while you’re thinking about college…

While going to college I end up dating this jerk. At this point in time I did not know anything about asexuality. After all, what 19 year old knows anything about herself? Most young girls date because they want to.   Some however date because they think they’re supposed to. It’s called “society’s expectations.” And many of us believe we are obligated to fulfill society’s expectations. Part of growing up is realizing that society’s expectations don’t really work for most people anyway.

To continue our story… For some strange reason, The Jerk was in a big hurry to get married. No kidding. I don’t know why. After all, he wasn’t pregnant… At least I didn’t think he was!   If he was, it wasn’t me! Honest! I swear!

I still have wonderful memories of his, “No wife a mine gonna go to no college! You gonna marry me and do what you told!” He was insisting I quit college, quit my job, and marry him, immediately! Years have gone by and I still don’t get it. Maybe the thought entered his mind to get married since all his friends already were married and he didn’t want to be left out, and I was a female, and so therefore I was somehow qualified?

But no, I wanted to “do something with my life,” besides become a factory to manufacture his kids. Anyway… He simply could not comprehend that any woman would rather have a college degree than have his babies and live in a trailer park, with him and his gun collection. (I am not making this stuff up.) Truly, this paragon of manly virtue was amazed that any woman would prefer college to a life of housewifery.

Life goes on… College is awesome, Dean’s List. Yes! (Associate Degree.)

I will say that as a young person, I dated various people. Never have I felt that “whatever it is” that girls are supposed to feel. I never did see myself as a character in a romance novel. It just wasn’t the real me. I didn’t need to be someone’s girlfriend. I wanted to just be myself. So… I got a college ring instead of a wedding ring. And looking back, I know it really was the right decision. After all, even then I knew, there had to be more to life than changing diapers… and those were the days when marriage did in fact mean changing diapers.

Eventually I felt as if I simply had to give up dating. One of the reasons was because so many people want something I’m not really prepared to give them. And doing the laundry was more interesting. Even cleaning the cat’s litter box was more fun to me than going on a date.

I know now that I just dated because a girl is expected to date someone. A few years back I heard the term asexual and began doing research. I was like, “Wow! I have found my lost tribe!”

Life goes on… Got associate degree. Then got lousy job. Office pervert kept annoying me. Never could comprehend his sick jokes. My friends in the office kept trying to fix me up, telling me they “felt sorry for me.” What a nuisance. I really wished they believed me when I said I wasn’t interested!

I could never understand my friends’ constant excitement about men, or their terrible neediness, and lack of personal independence. They needed men for everything. If a package weighed only five pounds, they would still ask a man to lift it. If a complicated math problem came up, they would ask their boyfriends to solve it. They would not endeavor to find out how to use jumper cables, or fix simple things.

Was the appearance of neediness a device to make them more attractive? Or did they really see themselves as genuinely helpless? Does society still dictate that women must play this foolish game? Or by acting helpless, do they help create the society that dictates that women should be helpless? I still do not know. And perhaps I never will.

Life continues. Got sick of not getting promoted so I went nights for my Bachelor of Science. Dean’s List on that, too. (Public Service Announcement: To all those out there who are no longer 19 and want to go back to school: Go ahead. Just DO IT!)

Life isn’t all about studying. I do stuff… I don’t just sit at home, staring into my computer all the time…

I took riding lessons that summer that I was attending college the second time around. It was wonderful to gallop an Arabian through the forest that was next to the farm… jumped the horse over a fence… it felt like flying.

I’ve restored a classic car. And that was a lot of work! It literally took many years to do. I didn’t do all of it myself, of course. Just the minor repairs. I leave major engine rebuilding to professionals! But I taught myself to understand how things work and how to care for a car, especially a stubborn and antiquated old machine with a distributor and an automatic choke.

Now this is another situation, which has frustrated me. Sadly, many people simply can’t believe that I like the car for itself. “You must get a lot of hot guys with that car!” Now is it logical that I would do all that vast amount of work, spend all that money… just to get a guy??? Some people think that every single activity a woman does is motivated by the chance to “get a guy.” If a guy restores a car, it’s like, okay, so he’s restoring a car. If a woman restores a car… deep Freudian meaning in that, right? Nope.

I have traveled to many places that most people have never been. Paris, the UK, Canada (Toronto is wonderful!), Ireland, Bermuda, Austria… Portugal and Spain… and North Africa…

Another one of my hobbies is creative writing. I’ve actually had a few things published, mostly science fiction and fantasy. I’ve written a few small features in old car publications, too.

I’m taking martial arts class at night, twice a week. The younger kids are a heck of a lot faster than me. It’s hard to keep up with 19 year olds. I keep trying, though!

I’m not a recluse. I often wonder if people may possibly imagine asexual people to be like these people who live in a basement and don’t go outside or something… But this is wrong. I do a lot with my life.

I go to art museums. I love science, literature, nature, music, and culture in general. I love the theatre.

I want to let people know, you don’t need a sex life to be creative. You don’t need a sex life to dress nice and like yourself, or to just basically live, either… You don’t need a sex life to go places, do things, have experiences, adventures, or be successful. You really don’t need a sex life to be happy, or to have inner peace. Most people describe feeling they are “missing” something, or they are “frustrated” if they lack sex. I have never felt this way, and I’m just happy to basically exist.

Continuing on… Got great job. Then got laid off. It’s called life. Or they called it “budgetary shortfall.” Figured I needed a job there is a lot of opportunity… many employees at that workplace were threatening to sue because of various issues, and then I realized — everyone sues everyone! Right? Right!

College degree No. 3 is coming right up! On to paralegal school! Dean’s List again. This is what happens to people who aren’t always out trying to get some. You end up studying all night long!

This is where my life is now… Working at a law firm. Happily single. Of course… Still have the nice old Buick I restored. Two cats. I have the scratches to prove it. Still writing and getting stuff published… my novella is now available on Amazon.

Still not interested in marriage… not even interested in dating, and now I realize I never was, really. Now I realize why it didn’t interest me… I’m just at peace with my condition in life.

It would be nice to have friends who understand, though…

And here’s the problem: If I could have just one wish, I’d hope that society would accept asexual people, and just let us live damn it… I once read a book about the turbulence of the sixties, the decade in which I arrived on this Earth, and the writer at the time interviewed this hippie, and he asked, “What do you people want?” “We just wanna be, man!” I wish people would accept me as an asexual person, because I just wanna be, man, but they can never know… I can’t tell them! And why is that?

Sadly, many of the people I associate with on a daily basis have a lot of anger towards various different “types” of people. They become very descriptive about how they feel about this minority group, that minority group, “and I don’t like those immigrants!” People I must associate with will colorfully describe their feelings about African Americans, Hispanics, feminists… Why give them another minority to hate?

And so… that’s my motive for writing this. I want people to know: I’m a good person. I have a good life… I’m a lot like you, but not exactly. I have a life, I have a job, I pay bills, and I have hopes and dreams. Those hopes and dreams just don’t include sex or finding a man to make my existence meaningful. And I don’t always see things the same way as most people do. I realize that vast numbers of people hate gays, Muslims, Rastafarians, Catholics, Puerto Ricans, Your Group in This Space Here…

So, to conclude, if you know anyone who appears to be permanently dateless, please refrain from constantly attempting to fix her up. It truly may not be what she really wants.

And please stop calling people like us late at night! We need sleep too, you know.

Thank you for reading this. Any questions?

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Early Ace History for Amateur Historians: Finding Primary Sources

ETA: So, it turns out that Tristifere beat me to this and already posted some great tips for Ace historians, many with more detail than I provide here. Check out their post here!

This is a post for the July 2015 Carnival of Aces, on the theme “Asexual History”

This piece is specifically concerned with the period of “early asexual history”, which I consider roughly anything before 2004. There reason I focus on this period in particular is because 1. It’s one of my personal areas of historical interest; 2. The smaller size of the community at that point makes it a more manageable introduction to ace history; 3. It’s the formative period for many of the ideas that we see in the ace community; and 4. It’s one of the periods that’s hard to find out about than some more recent history.

This is also not meant for actual historians – it’s more for amateurs like me with an interest in poking around and learning more about early ace history, so I’m not getting into theories of historiography or anything like that. Instead, it’s all about how to find primary sources to read and learn more from. It’s pretty loosely structured, so let’s jump right into it:

1. Check out existing collections and guides.  While existing ace historical archives are unfortunately pretty sparse, there are a some out there – things like AsexualExploration’s Bibliography (which includes some early works) and the AVENwiki media lists (which has links to many early newspaper articles that have already been dug up, from ) or the Asexual Zine Archive (more recent). Another tool is looking at links from other posts in this carnival (like my other post), or searching for terms like “asexual history” in the AVEN forums – there are some threads already where people have dug up some pretty cool stuff.

2. Check out existing asexual community websites’ archives. Many online asexuals communities still have records available from the moment they were founded. For example, you can view AVEN posts all the way back to when the forums were first added (minus any threads that have been lost to deletion/hacks/server problems). Many other communities like the Asexuality Livejournal also have most of their old posts online. You can also read the entire archives for the Haven for the Human Amoeba (arguably the first asexual community) as well, which is super interesting.

While most of these communities are now far too busy for anyone to keep track of their activity, many started with only a small handful, making it easy to read through the first few months of activity in a few days, giving you a really intimate glimpse of early asexual communities. I highly recommend reading through some of the early AVEN, HHA, and Livejournal days for anyone interested in early asexual communities.

2. Use’s Wayback Machine. Seriously, the Internet Archive’s wayback machine is the #1 most useful tool for any internet historian. Basically, the wayback machine is the archived results from years of web crawlers that gathered snapshots of most publicly accessible pages on the internet.

This is the easiest way to access asexuality pages that no longer exist, from well known pieces like My Life as an Amoeba or lesser known sites like TNGirlTech’s Asexualism Page. You can also use it to view older versions of current websites, like past iterations of the AVEN home page.

While the archive may only have one snapshot every year or so for smaller and obscurer sites, it can still be a great insight.

3. Snowball through your sources’ sources. Of course, the tools above are only good for viewing pieces you already knew existed. What about the ones you don’t already know of? One of the best ways to find other early ace communities or websites is by trolling through links pages, posted links, and webrings that you find on the few existing communities that you do know. And everytime you find a new website, check all of it’s links, and so on and so forth. That can be a great way to dig up lesser known items, like this ambiguously sarcastic (or not?) page or this research on asexuality for a Toronto newspaper from the late 90’s.

One of the best ways to start getting to know early ace communities is to begin with the HHA archives and the “My Life as an Amoeba” comments section – many people in each of those are aggregating links much the way we do now, which makes it a good collection of sources to start from.

4. Talk to people! One of the other great things about the ace community being relatively young is that most of the major figures in ace history are still alive! It may take a bit of work to hunt down people who may not be very active in the community any longer, and the people behind some pseudonyms just won’t be findable, but there are still tons of early ace community members still hanging around – think SwankIvy, David Jay, Nat Titman, etc. Interviewing people who were around in these early communities, whether as Big Name Asexuals or just anonymous lurkers, is a great way to get more information on what things were like. Interviews can also get you personal  insights into things that aren’t in the public record, whether it’s about things that went down in private, or personal feelings or perspectives that can’t be determined from reading old posts alone.

5. Wanna go even further back? Try newspaper archives! These are very useful when you want to try and look into “pre-internet” asexuality. Many newspaper archives are increasingly being digitized, allowing you to simply search for words like “asexual” or “asexuality” or “nonsexual” or “autoerotic” or whatever your term of choice is. Google has a public newspaper database, and academic institutions and libraries may have access to other databases like ProQuest Historical Newspapers, and some individual papers may have their own archives hosted online.

6. Search academic and library databases, and academic texts. Another way to potentially find things is by brute force searching terms like “asexual” in any databases you have access to – whether it’s LGBT archives, general library catalogs, old journal databases, or anything else.

Just searching “asexual” may mean wading through a lot of biology papers before you find anything relevent, so one tip is to search for “asexuality” (slightly less common in biological texts) or for combinations like “asexual orientation” or “asexual”, “homosexual”, and “bisexual” or “asexuals are”.

If you have ebook or digital versions of various sexological works, you can also search digitally for the word “asexual”, and many may have brief references even as early as the 50s and 60s (or even the 20s!). You can also use the old fashioned method of checking the indexes in paper books, or scanning chapter titles (focusing especially on anything about celibacy, frigidness, dysfunction, etc, which are likely sources for mentions in early works).

Anyway, those are just a few ideas to start, but that should be enough to keep an eager ace sleuth up for months – I’ve had fun digging for years using these techniques and starting points. As always, feel free to ask if you want help finding anything re: ace history.

And, to close, I’d like to issue a challenge to any followers who might be interested: take a few minutes (or hours, or days, or however long you like) to try some of the tools above, and post a cool fact or link you’ve found in the comments below – there’s tons of cool stuff out there, and I’d love to see what everyone else’s favorites are! And who knows, you may even find something no one else even knew existed!

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Link Dump: Early Asexual Sites via

This is a list of links (relevent to my next post) that I’ve had sitting on my computer for years now, as I keep meaning to make it into a neatly organized list…but since I still haven’t done that yet and probably never will, I figure I’ll just dump them all here and people can explore them as they wish :)

There’s no particular organization or order or relevence here, it’s just some fun things to check out if you’re into ace history.

This is a post for the July 2015 Carnival of Aces, on the theme “Asexual History”

  1. My life as a human amoeba:
    1. (comments):
    2. (article):
  2. Asexual Coalition:
    2. oldest archived instance April 1999r
    3. looks like it might be more satire?
    4. does link to leather spinsters though.
  3. Leather Spinsters (Asexuality page):
    2. Earliest archived instance: December 1998
    3. No links to offsite asexual pages
  4. The Fourth Sexuality:
    2. Article about nonsexuality; this version first appears sometime between august 2001 june 2002
    3. (later hosted on swankivy’s page?)
    4. previously written article:
    5. originally written sometime before august 2001
    6. Does not appear to have any links to other asexual websites
  5. Haven for the Human Amoeba
    1. Archived posts can be found here:
    2. First Post: Oct 11, 2000; founded by drksparkle
    3. (July 15: tngirltech joins)
    4. Things linked to/mentioned in HHA:
      1. SCUM Manifesto – July 16th, 2001 (drksparkle)
      2. Antisexualism Online – July 28th, 2001 (Montgomery_Erick…)
      3. TNTechGirls’ asexualism page –  July 31, 2001 (tntechgirl)
      4. RU Antisex –  August 1, 2001 (tntechgirl) (notes as too extreme)
  6. Asexual Web Ring:
    2. founded by HHA members
  7. TNGIrlTech’s Asexualism Page:
    2. first mentioned in a link on HHA on July 31, 2001
    3. Links to: (as of April 2002) AVEN, Asexual Manifesto, HHA, The Asexual Rant (swankivy)
  8. The Asexual Rant/Nonsexual Rant (Swankivy):
  9. Asexual Manifesto:
    2. First archived instance November 2001
    3. links to: the celibate webring, Organization for Antisexualism
  10. The Celibate Webring:
    2. (later
    3. (list of member sites here:;action=list)
    4. Links to Nonsexuality Rant, OFA
  11. Organization for Antisexualism/Antisexualism Online:
    2. -first recorded archive appearance in April 2000
    3. -shut down in April 2006
    4. -had forums which cannot be accessed via webarchive
    5. (see links page)
    6. -links to antisex stronghold FAQ
  12. RU.Antisex:
    2. first archived appearance: june 2002
    3. last archived appearance: october 2002
  14. The Official Asexual Society/Official Nonlibidoism Society:
    2. First appearance in the internetarchives: May 2004
    3. But has been linked on AVEN at least as early as August 2003
    4. Date unknown: changed name from Official Asexual Society to Official Nonlibidoism Society (somewhere between december 2004 and february 2005)
    5. Dissolved sometime around late 2006/early 2007 (according to an apositive post by Dargon)
  15. Asexuals/”Asexuals We Are” [livejournal group]
    1. First post: July 20, 2001:
    2. Pretty much defunct by 2007, with less than five posts per year
  16. Asexuality [livejournal group]
    2. First post: April 28, 2002:
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